monday morning encouragement: reflection

Oh boy, this year has already been a doozy for me. I have had no motivation to do the projects I want to accomplish. I have no oomf to get me going in the badass girlboss direction I want this year to head in. I don’t even have the energy to write down the goals I want to tackle in 2018. I know it’s only day 8 of the year, but can we like push the restart button or something? I just want to start the year with a dreamy ambience filled with healthy eating that somehow still involves donuts, being able to tackle my inbox like I’m in the NFL, & somehow crushing my to-do lists like it’s a personal pizza.

But, guess what? That’s just not how life goes sometimes! We can’t force perfection. We can’t make the things we want or the life we long for just appear. The truth is bad days come & we have to work through those days to get to the good ones. We have to put forth effort if we want things to be a certain way. We can’t just wish & hope & dream…dreaming has to be followed by action. Action has to come. I am a dreamer, but I also have to be a doer.

As I reflect on the past year, & this past week that didn’t go the way I wanted to, I have to remember that it’s okay that I’m not perfect. It’s okay that I lack confidence & drive some days. It’s okay to realize that I can’t do it all, but I can give myself grace when I fall short of my own expectations. And you should too.

It’s okay if you’ve already stopped going to the gym after saying you would everyday this week. It’s okay if you ate pasta this weekend when you told yourself that you’d stick to only greens. It’s okay if you’re feeling weak when you just want to be strong. It’s okay to fall short, give yourself grace. That means, to allow yourself to receive what you don’t deserve; forgiveness, understanding, another chance.

You deserve another chance to accomplish what you set out to do. It’s Monday. It’s a new week. Say hello to the days ahead, the good & bad ones, & know they don’t define your worth. If you’re feeling down on yourself today, that’s okay. Either find a way to turn the day around by doing something you love or, take a deep breath, be what you need for today, then wake up tomorrow ready to take on life. You can do it. I can do it. We’re all on this roller-coaster together trying to enjoy it while also trying to not throw up. So hold on tight.


– abbey kay



*brought to by a girl who is feeling the roller-coaster of life a lot today, but is trying to enjoy the ride 






One response to “monday morning encouragement: reflection”

  1. Mike Avatar

    A wonderful post Abbey. This is just what I needed to see today. I admit that I’ve already fallen short in my huge “audacious goals” to make 2018 “better” than 2017. What started off as being a good “jump start”, I soon quickly fell back into my level of “normalcy” and old habits. I even thought today with a laugh, “old habits are hard to break”.

    But I didn’t beat myself up over this either, as I had in the past. One of my goals is to begin treating myself better and not putting myself down because I have failed in something. Like you said, we can’t force perfection. We can’t make good things happen to us. Life’s just too dang on complex and messy for that. But we can still take action to bring ourselves closer to that “better life”. I know that it’s not always an easy thing to do and there will always be a few bumps along the way, but we can do it! I can do it, you can do it, we all can do it! 🙂

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