They say you’re supposed to have it all figured out by a certain early on set age. That you should know who you are, what you want to be, & how you want to live your life before you can even drive a car. Society puts this pressure on us saying that we should be thinking about college at age 15, our life long career at 18, & retirement when we’re 20. But how are you supposed to plan out your entire life when you’ve only truly lived a short amount of it?
If you asked me when I was younger if I thought I’d be a college drop out who writes a blog, works with companies, & does frequent photoshoots, I’d say you’re a crazy person who has lost their mind. I was someone who wanted to go to college. I wanted to succeed in school. I wanted to earn a degree. I wanted to get married young & become a mom & live a somewhat normal life. But how was I supposed to know that I’d actually become someone who dreaded school, hated college, & not be entering into the career of “mom” as soon as I had hoped.
I was thrown a new dream that caught like wildfire & consumed all of me as I learned to discover myself.
I didn’t know that I would all of a sudden love clothes & the art of styling. I didn’t know that I’d be courageous & start a blog. I didn’t know that I’d push my creative skills & produce pictures worthy of standing out & being noticed. I didn’t know I’d have the opportunity to work with small companies & model products. I didn’t know that I’d be given the privilege of having a voice that was wanting to be heard.
I didn’t know what my true dreams were because I hadn’t yet discovered myself.
I think it’s great if you’re young & you truly know what you want to do with the rest of your life & you have the mind set to work hard for it. But most of us don’t have that kind of luck. Most of us are just going day by day trying to make it work, trying to survive. So to those of you who were once like me, I say this: it’s okay to discover your dreams as you discover yourself.
No one knows at 13 who they are going to be. No one knows at 15 what they are one day going to love. And at 20, we’re still trying to figure out this thing we all know as life. So don’t be too hard on yourself. Don’t give into the pressure of thinking you have to have your whole life mapped out the instant you leave grade school. You have a long way to go & you’re going to change along the way. It’s okay to let your life develop, you have the time to create something beautiful no matter how long it takes.
Discover your dreams as you discover yourself, because baby, some dreams are worth waiting for.
— abbey kay
*brought to you by a girl whose dreams first discovered her