stacked jewels & being casually chic

Okay, I’ma be honest with y’all for a sec. I really hate labeling fashion styles & senses because I don’t think women should conform themselves to one single category & let their identity come from just that. I for one don’t believe I have a “style” per say. I wear what I want, when I want & sometimes what I wear flows in & out of different trends depending on the day. I wouldn’t say I wear what is “in” necessarily, but I am one to wear new ideas I see & like. I feel like I look like a different person everyday & that is something I love about fashion. I can be who I want any day because I will always be me. But lately it’s been hard to know when to draw the line between expressing myself through fashion & letting it become my ultimate identity by trying to gain name fame. Yesterday I wore an outfit that felt not like me at all. It honestly felt too much like a carbon copy of other fashion bloggers I was trying to be. Every aspect of the outfit was an idea from someone else I was striving to be. But after going to my community group last night (it’s a church thing, where you come alongside other believers & walk with each other through life with encouragement, love, & biblical support) I realized something. I am not my clothes. I am not the brand I wear. I am not the style I choose to express. I am not my body shape. I’m not defined by my hair or make-up or poses I strike. I am a child of God who has been given the passion of style to be used to glorify Him & bring fame to His name & not my own. I’ve forgotten about that me lately. I’ve been so caught up in the public eye’s satisfaction that is a fashion blogger’s identity that I forgot that I’m not doing this to earn my value & worth. I already know how much I cost. A death on a cross that expresses eternal love & forgiveness is what gives me my ultimate identity. I am a daughter worth dying for, no matter what I do with my life. Yesterday I remembered that if I am not doing this “fashion stuff” for The King, then I don’t want to be doing it at all.








Dress; H&M Leggings; Ross Shirt; Old Navy Boots; F21 Clutch; Ross Whistle Necklace; F21 Arrow Necklace; F21 Wooden Geometric Necklace; Swallow’s Heart

Ladies, remember your true worth. It doesn’t come from anything or anyone in this world or even yourself. Because we all know we are our own worst enemies at times. It comes from a God who loves you enough to crown you with His perfection & righteousness. That means your blameless in his eyes. You’re not defined by anything you’ve done or anything that’s been done to you. You are known as a beautiful bride in white to the Heavenly Father. I believe this stuff, because it’s heart changing truth & a love like His cannot ever be unknown once known.

— abbey kay


2 responses to “stacked jewels & being casually chic”

  1. Meghan Avatar

    Loved this post, girl. It is a battle everyday to not let our identity be determined by temporal things– even things that are good. Thanks for sharing your heart and being authentic. Great reminder.

    “whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men” // colossians 3:23


    1. abbey kay Avatar

      Aww thank you! That verse definitely needs to sink into my heart right now! (:

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